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The Power of Self Encouragement

One of the key things that can stop anyone from reaching or accomplishing his dreams in life is, when you don’t believe in yourself. When you start doubting yourself. And when you start having second a thought “I can’t..”

I agree with Henry Ford who quotes “If you think you can do a thing or think you can’t do a thing, you are right” which means the choices of winning or failing is in your hand. Always remember, where there’s a will there’s a way.

Why is this important?

Because, winning in life begins in your heart, plus self believe and most importantly, your faith in God. Although people might not believe in you always, but have faith in yourself that….you have what it takes to be a winner.

A good example here is the Wright Brothers, their story changed the way we view our world. Initially, before inventing an aero plane, it seems to be an impossible case….I guess, most of their friends would have say “You can’t do it”
But despite all this, they encourage themselves. They refuse to give up. They never doubted themselves. Yet, they kept working…trying…until their dreams becomes a reality.

So, don’t give up on your dreams or career…keep trying..until you win. Take away: Failure is only a delay and not a defeat.

The Power of Commitment

Commitment is one of the key determining factors to winning in life. Commitment is what enables you to attain to… all the success you seek for whether personally or professionally. I agree on what LeBron James said, “Commitment is a big part of what I am and what I believe.

  • How committed are you to winning?
  • How committed are you to being a good friend?
  • To being trustworthy?
  • To being successful?
  • How committed are you to being a good father, a good teammate, a good role model?
  • There’s that moment every morning when you look in the mirror: Are you committed, or are you not?”

So, lets be committed because it is the” Key” to winning in life. Please share any additional thoughts about how we can improvement our commitments.

Eight Types Of Friendship

Friendship is everything whether personally or professionally. It determines our impacts, our success, and our growth in life. In the race of destiny, some friends will make you fly, others run, others walk, and yet, others will make you crawl. Thats why, “If you run with wolves, you will learn how to howl but, if you associate with eagles, you will learn how to soar to great heights.” Good friends do not only keep company with us, but they also bring out best in us.
I came across this inspiring article written by Liz Spencer and Ray Pahl. They identified 8 different types of friendship.

1. Associates: They are people who only shared a common activity, like a hobby or a sport.

2. Useful contacts: They are people who shared relevant information and advice, typically related to work or advancing ones career.

3. Favor friends: They are people who helped each other out in a functional manner, but not in an emotional manner.
4. Fun friends: They are people who socialized together, but only for fun. They didn’t provide each other with a deep level of emotional support.
5. Helpmates: They are a combination of favor friends and fun friends. They socialized together and helped each other out in a functional manner.
6. Comforters: They are like helpmates, but they also provided emotional support.

7. Confidants: They disclosed personal information to each other, enjoyed each other’s company, but weren’t always in a position to offer practical help, for example if they lived far away.

8. Soul mates: They displayed all the elements.

As I said earlier, friendship is everything whether personally or professionally. What stage are you or rather, which types of friendships are you targeting?

The Power of Indecision

A wise man ones said, it is better to do something and make mistake, than to do nothing at all. Another person said, good plan executed today are far better than perfect plans executed next month. According to Henry Ford – “Indecision is often worse than wrong action” In my view, indecision is an enemy of success. It slow down someone’s mobility. It is a battle of mind. And it goes like this:

  • We are afraid of what will happen – What if it doesn’t work?
  • So, so person has done it and nothing happen – What makes me think is possible?
  • Let me wait for the next season maybe things will change?

Friends, the cure to indecision begins when you face your fear – You will never know what you can do until you decide to do it. And the quality of your decision lies on how much facts you have. So, gather the right info (facts) about whatever you want to do. Make inquiries, seek for suggestions and professional advice etc.

Johann Wolfgang von Goethe said – Each indecision brings its own delays and days are lost lamenting over lost days. . . . What you can do or think you can do, begin it. For boldness has magic, power, and genius in it.

The Power of Association

“A man only learns in two ways, one by reading, and the other by association with smarter people” – Will Rogers

The association you keep in life will determine your accomplishment. Most of the time, what makes our children’s to succeed in their education; is not just the school they went to neither the teachings, but the friendship they keep.

Based on my research, I came across this article “Good Read Quote” by Gen. Colin Powell taking about associations. I decided to share it; I guess it will be a guide for you to choose right association. They are:

  • Don’t follow anyone who’s not going anywhere, with some people you spend an evening: with others you invest it
  • Be careful where you stop to inquire for directions along the road of life
  • Wise is the person who fortifies his life with the right friendships
  • If you run with wolves, you will learn how to howl but, if you associate with eagles, you will learn how to soar to great heights
  • The less you associate with some people, the more your life will improve
  • Any time you tolerate mediocrity in others, it increases your mediocrity
  • An important attribute in successful people is their impatience with negative thinking and negative acting people
  • As you grow, your associates will change. Some of your friends will not want you to go on; they will want you to stay where they are. Friends that don’t help you climb will want you to crawl
  • Your friends will stretch your vision or choke your dream. Those that don’t increase you will eventually decrease you

Thus, I want to say that, the outcome of who you are, the goals you achieve, the dreams you accomplish, the destiny you fulfill, they all has its root either as a result of the associations you keep or maybe you personally. Finally, let’s look for a good association because; they will determine your accomplishment.